The first two posts on defining the qualities of a man can be found at these links:
Today’s post covers quality three of six.
Accept RESPONSIBILITY for a Woman to Love
Each of us have one thing in common in this world. We each had a mom. A woman who carried us for around nine months before we were born. Through the process of caring for us when we had no way to do so, our mothers displayed an unconditional love for us.
No matter if we were calm or kicked a lot, she ate and slept for both of us. Then we were born.
Most of us have a mom that also cared for us and loved us after we were born. Here again she loved us no matter what we did because we came from her. We are her flesh and blood!
I think we should always treat our mothers with respect. I never want to embarrass or bring disgrace to my mom. I never wanted to disappoint her either. I know sometimes I did, and I always felt bad about it.
For unmarried young men I want that you and your potential wife (girlfriend) should not be unequally yoked. Meaning it is best that a Christian date and marry another Christian. There is a lot to be said about why, but let’s just leave it at that right now.
Your wife (or wife to be) should be an extension of how you treat your mother. Treat your wife will only follow the patterns you established with your mother (respect, admiration, care and love).
The good part about what is different with a wife and a mother is the fact that the intimate relationship can now be sexual within the covenant of a marriage. Yes, once we are married to our wife the pleasures God intended between a man and woman can be fully explored. And those pleasures are wonderful – within a marriage of a man and a woman.
You should also be ready to change with her during the different seasons of life. We will all grow older if we do not die first, so if we are still living we will grow old with our wife. There will be seasons where things are going good and seasons when things are tough – and they may not balance out. But you both will change as you grow older. Just be ready for those changes and find new ways to love her.
A man should remember what he promised on his wedding day.
To Have and to Hold
For Better or for Worse
Whether Richer or Poorer
In Sickness and in Health
To Love and to Cherish
from that day forward until death does part you